Hiiiii!!!! Hope you guys had an amazing long weekend! I’m happy to report I’m feeling so much better after a few low key days of rest and excited to start a fresh new week feeling good. Thank you for all the well wishes!!
Today’s post is something I’ve been thinking a lot about lately and something we all face everyday – choices. There are two places from which we make our decisions: love and fear. We work because we love what we do or we fear not being able to make money if we don’t. We stay in relationships because we’re in love with our partner or we fear being alone and not finding a greater love. We work out because we love the way it makes us feel or we fear gaining weight and being out of shape. Ultimately, all of our actions are rooted in love and fear.
As kids, we make a lot more decisions from love because we don’t have as much to be afraid of. We have less people dependent on us, less accountability, and less knowledge of failure and what it feels like. We try things, we explore, we let ourselves act on our desires, and we don’t apologize for coloring outside the lines. One thing I’ve promised myself with all my might I would do my best not to lose as I grew up is not being fearful. I think as we grow older and get more responsibility, we get safer. We lose our lust for living without boundaries and shuffle back away from our edge because we are scared of falling off. We want to be safe where we know the ground is steady and have “security”. We conform to societal institutions like school, memberships, organizations, and corporate desk jobs that make us feel relevant, worthy, and accepted. And we live our lives this way without asking questions or feeling like we can do anything different because this is just the way it is and how we are supposed to be living. That’s how everyone else is doing it so we’re certain we should be too. Yep.
What I’ve found for myself is that making decisions from fear never takes me where I really want to go. When I make choices because I’m afraid of what will happen if I do something different, I’m acting from an empty, passionless place of conformity, insecurity, and acceptance of my circumstances, whether I like them or not. The funny thing is, the same fear based decisions I made to protect myself and feel secure ultimately lead me to a place I don’t want to be and cause me to be discontent and unhappy. Because when it’s all said and done, I don’t want fear. I want love.
When we make choices from love, we push fear away are brought closer to love. When we make choices from fear, we push love away are brought and closer to fear. Love propels us forward and fear holds us back. We’ve all experienced this effect in choices we’ve made in life and, although it seems obvious, it can be difficult to practice. Choices from fear are often immediately easier and more comfortable, while choices from love take more trust, confidence, and embracing of the unknown.
One of the most important things we can all do to live fuller lives is notice our intentions in the choices we make. Are we doing things from love or fear? This can be from tiny everyday things to major life decisions because all of our choices come from these two places. This simple acknowledgement of intention can lead to a greater awareness about the way you live your entire life. Shifting your primary motivation for doing things from fear to love can open you up to things you never thought your were capable of and lead to a joy you never knew you could experience. Because who really wants a life full of fear when you can have a life full of love?
Tell me – what was an important decision you made from love and how did that change your life?